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• 248: Learning to Act While Anxious – Growing Trust in Self

  We often get decision paralysis or feel intense anxiety around actions that need to be taken, especially when we perceive the stakes to be high. Even if you feel like the answer is obvious it can be really hard to trust yourself, which leads many to ask others to make the decisions for them. What we often feel is a dominant fear of hurting someone else or letting go of something familiar. This intense resistance is another shape of codependency or the group of traits associated with being parentified at a young age. This is an episode to help you move through difficult, anxiety provoking decisions even when you feel intensely ambivalent and fear mis stepping. The trick is to make decisions despite the feeling in your body – to make moves strategically based on what you conceptually KNOW is the next best thing to do.  Feeling afraid if often just our body saying “this is going to cost me a lot of energy and I don’t want to go through it.” It’s an energy-saving resistance and not reflective of the actual pain that this thing will cause. This is an episode to help you walk through something that your body is currently resisting. What we think will happen if we move through hard stuff is that it will take a long time or we will lose control and or stop functioning. While triggering moves can stir the muck of our pond, they also lighten us and free us up: they grow our muscles and strengths as we evolve in our lives. This has a lot of tools and ways to come back home to self: come from love, use your own best thinking, let the rest go. Support this week’s sponsors! Vionic Shoes: vionicshoes.com and use code HELPMEBEME at checkout for 15% off your entire order when you log into your account. 1 time use only. Gabb Wireless: Protecting your kids has never been easier. For the best deals, sign up to Gabb today – no contract required – at gabb.com/helpmebeme Lumen: Head to http://lumen.me/HELPMEBEME for 15% off your purchase     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• Ep 247: The Power of Our Energy – Cleansing it + curating positivity

  How to ensure your life is conducive to empowerment and love. It can all end tomorrow – how are you living, today? If you are feeling anxious and overwhelmed, this is for cleansing and correcting your energy – becoming more deliberate in that embodiment. The goal for me in this episode is to remind you that you have a hand in resetting your focus and your energy and that that presence/how you show up absolutely affects the world around you. Is your life set up for your nervous system? Remember to be responsible in setting boundaries that honor you in your life. Only take in what keeps you active and powerful and channeling your energy toward the good. Today I know what activates me/what I can take in, and I also respect what overwhelms me to the point of incapacitation/what I cannot take in. Be very deliberate in how you welcome things into your psyche: watch what does good and what does not. I also want to remind you to have hope and to remain open to possibilities: we cannot see the future, from today right now. We cannot know all that will be and we will be a different person with different priorities when the future arrives. Sending love!   Sponsors: Chewy: Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme to save $20 on your first order with free shipping Vionic Shoes: vionicshoes.com and use code HELPMEBEME at checkout for 15% off your entire order when you log into your account. 1 time use only. Meaningful Beauty: Meaningfulbeauty.com/helpmebeme to receive 25% off and get the Targeted Treatment Duo gift set for free! Hungryroot: Hungryroot.com/HELPMEBEME and use code HELPMEBEME to get 40% off your first box and a free item of your choice for life. Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Headspace: Headspace.com/HELPMEBEME60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• Ep 246: The Things We Do to Ourselves

  This is about how we can come to a sense of comfort in our bodies and psyche, feel more aligned and at home in our life, versus at the mercy of it. It’s really easy to set up systems in our lives that betray our truest wishes for our souls. You might find that the life you have set up brings tons of stress to your body, makes you feel overwhelmed for a large majority of your week, or takes you out of quality time with your loved ones. I think we only get glimpses of this truth when we are having a panic attack, or almost done with vacation, or have the Sunday scaries: it’s that looking down the barrel of the future feeling where you think, “When will all the overwhelm end??” The things we do to ourselves can be abusive, to say the least. For you that betrayal might be in the area of peace, self-respect, bodily peace, or simply a calm mind and nervous system. In this episode I am offering you a reflection and reset for You on You. Reframing the way you move through your life can be simple: it comes down to acknowledging and addressing your inner view of what’s working and not working. This understanding can alter the trajectory of how you move forward in small but profound ways. You on You is also a relationship: a friendship, and one that can be repaired with a few simple tweaks and intentionality. Support this week’s sponsors: Vionic Shoes: vionicshoes.com and use code HELPMEBEME at checkout for 15% off your entire order when you log into your account. 1 time use only.   Gabb: Gabb.com/HELPMEBEME - Protecting your kids has never been easier. For the best deals, sign up today – no contract required Hungryroot: Hungryroot.com/HELPMEBEME and use code HELPMEBEME to get 40% off your first box and a free item of your choice for life. Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Acorns Early: acornsearly.com/helpmebeme or download the Acorns Early app to get started. Sign up now and your first month is on us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• Ep 245: Know Your Thrive Zone – for feeling alienated from yourself

  This episode is all about knowing how to reward your inner self as you move through the world. It's about having a sense of our own spiritual and egoic priorities and ensuring we respect that truth at all times. If we don't do this, we end up feeling anxious, empty, numb, disconnected, and not liking ourselves. As we advance through life stages, our needs change, and we need to tune in to see what is true for us, then take steps to honor that truth.   We need to stay present and fulfilled, remaining conscious in the creation of our life. This requires us to stay really aware of old coping skills and know when we are near a personal danger zone. If you are in a place where you feel anxious, empty, numb, disconnected, and not liking yourself, know that the path to renewal, growth, and energy is actually tapping into the underbelly of what you have pushed down. Ask yourself, "What am I hiding from? What am I not listening to?" We need to make contact again so we can restore that connection. If we don't, it grows increasingly more persistent, making us feel we are violating ourselves. I call this splitting from ourselves. This is an invitation to reconnect and tap into what will ultimately make you thrive.   Support this week’s sponsors!   Chewy: chewy.com/podhelpmebeme to save $20 on your first order with free shipping   Vionic Shoes: vionicshoes.com and use code HELPMEBEME at checkout for 15% off your entire order when you log into your account. 1 time use only.   Gabb Wireless: gabb.com/helpmebeme for the best deals, no contract required Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• Ep 244: The Pleasing Trigger - Social Grasping and Neediness

  Even if you’ve done a lot of work on yourself, feel confident and seated in yourself, there can be new situations when you recon with an unexpected and uncomfortable need to please or be liked by others that even if you disagree with it logically– can betray your intellect. This is a response that is often triggered by new social situations or conditions that remove you from your definition of self. It might happen when you’re entering a tightknit group that is not based in “who you are” or grow slowly in a situation where you are not aligned with the core group. Regardless it feels disconcerting and can catch you off-guard asking “What is happening??” I’ll call it 'the pleasing trigger.’ The feeling that we have to fit in and be liked can be intense and desperate, one that is triggered at any age– often when we are in a new forced social situation like a new professional sphere. Know that if this is happening to you it’s not because you are weak or unevolved, it’s because you are wired the way all humans are wired. These milestones when we feel the need to fit in might be when we are entering a life stage that is new with a new social group.   Support this week’s sponsors!   Gabb Gabb is offering twenty-five dollars off any device—with no contract required. Just go to Gabb.com/HELPMEBEME to get started. Terms and conditions apply.   Prolon Just in time for the new year, Prolon is offering Help Me Be Me listeners FIFTEEN PERCENT off their 5-day nutrition program for your post-holiday glow-up when you go to ProlonLife.com/HELPMEBEME   Vionic Use code HELPMEBEME at checkout for 15% off your entire order at www.vionicshoes.com when you log into your account. 1 time use only.   Lume As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET 15% ALL Lume products with our exclusive code - Use code HELPMEBEME for 15% off your first purchase at LumeDeodorant.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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